Xet resides in Denmark. We’re independent of party politics and of other communities, clubs and societies. Any surplus we generate shall be used in accordance with our stated goal and policy.

It is the goal of Xet to create and maintain the best possible settings for BDSM play and togetherness for responsible and playful adults, and further:

• To become and stay the best BDSM community in Denmark
• To create diverse possibilities and room for differences, within BDSM, while still focusing on a safe and cosy atmosphere
• That play is always a high priority
• That BDSM’ers can meet and exchange experiences and create the base for developing new friendships
• To make space for adult and equal responsible adults to play with dominance and submission of their own free will
• To cooperate with other BDSM related societies and clubs in Denmark and abroad
• To always function as a democratic club, where everyone has an equal right to express oneself

We welcome as members any adults that can support our stated goal and policy and will accept to play by the rules stated. We welcome members from all over the world. However:

• We do not accept pedophiles or people that have been convicted and/or talk about pedophility in a positive way
• Violent persons and persons with convictions of violent acts
• We generally do not accept people that infer sexual assault in any way
• Any suspicion of the above must be reported to Xet immediately and we will act accordingly. Official charge for the above mentioned actions will lead to quarantine.

All members can use an alias within Xet, but the member’s correct name and postal address must be known to the membership coordinator.

All members receive occasional e-mail from Xet. Any member is responsible for keeping up to date on information from Xet through the member area of Xet.dk and information inside our castle.

On becoming a member you must accept a lifelong discretion concerning everything related to Xet, including people, scenes and location. Misuse and sharing of this information outside of Xet constitutes a breach of the rules of discretion of Xet.

The membership fee is set on the general assembly of Xet (GF). The fee is currently 100 DKK (approx 15€) per month and must be paid quarterly, every six months or yearly. Xet can once a year raise or lower the fee with 10% pending a warning of two months.

The non-hierarchy structure of Xet also gives the responsibility of any group of interest to work directly according to the rules laid out before the GF.

From Xet house rules:

• We observe ordinarily accepted social behavior in and around our localities
• Everyone must act in respect to others
• Conversation on location must be kept at a non-disturbing level so as to keep the atmosphere relaxed and safe

Play:

• No one is forced to play with anyone, and of course everyone decides for themselves who they want to socialize with / talk to
• There is no need to be overly accepting towards people that force their company on you. Should you feel bothered, say it. Even to the point of seeking help around you.
• Don’t interrupt the games that others play. No yelling, commenting, encouraging or opinionating comments, please.
• Watching is OK, but stay on a distance as not to interrupt the play.
• Don’t invite yourself into a game that’s not yours. Always accept a rejection – just don’t discuss it.
• Any member has the right to his or her own sexuality. Just because you’re not turned on by it doesn’t mean it’s not all right for others.
• We all have different limits. Be mindful of not scaring others away by inducing pressure.

Discretion:

• Anything you learn of members or groups is confidential personal knowledge.
• Use and/or sharing of this knowledge outside the boundaries of Xet can lead to exclusion.
• It would be breach of discretion to tell anyone outside of Xet who are members or what goes on inside the location, if and when this information is related to persons or groups.
• The boundaries of Xet are clear: any time any one non-member is present, it’s out of bounds.

Dress code:

• Arrival to and departure from the location must be discrete for the sake of our neighbors.
• Inside Xet we all must strive to wear BDSM related “clothes”.
• Please, do not wear your ordinary everyday clothes. Think about it.